The concept of Emotional Intelligence, developed by Daniel Goleman, is the equilibrium between reason and emotion. This form of intelligence explains best the success in life when compared to the criteria given for IQ.
The characteristics of Emotional Intelligence, which interest us here, are empathy, the ability to preserve despite adversity, having control over our impulses, maintaining an even temper in all circumstances, and waiting patiently for the satisfaction of our desires and hopes.
The goal of this intelligence is:
- The identification of our emotional condition or self-awareness;
- Apprehending the intimate repercussions of each decision is essential to better understand one’s life. Without becoming aware, the understanding of oneself and psychological intuitions are impossible;
- The ability to understand and to control one’s emotions allows managing reversals and contrariety much better. To adapt one’s sentiments to each situation depends on it;
- Self-motivation, that is to say the ability to channel one’s emotion, delay the satisfaction of one’s desire until later and repress one’s impulses is the basis for all accomplishment;
- The perception we have of someone else’s emotions. The more we are sensitive to our own emotions, the better we can decipher those of others. Based on self-awareness, empathy is a fundamental element of the interpersonal intelligence to end in altruism;
- The control of human relations. Maintaining good human relations, in part, it knows how to manage one’s emotions. In all human relations, benevolence finds its origin in one’s harmony with others, and the ability to empathize.
These aptitudes, essential in controlling oneself and achieving social success, are at the foundation of the knowledge of oneself, of discretion, compassion, and cooperation and of the capacity to resolve conflicts. They allow assurance of success in those meetings and in relationships, in mobilizing, inspiring, influencing, and putting others at ease.
To live in harmony with our contemporaries, it is necessary to attain equilibrium between instinctive and rational responses while preserving our social relations. A true smile mobilizing the muscles around the eyes is a physiological stamp of this cerebral harmony. The eyes do not know how to lie; their surrounding lines signify the authenticity of the smile. A true smile says that his interlocutor senses, at that precise moment, a state of harmony between what he thinks and feels, between the cognitive and the emotive.
Emotional Intelligence is at the heart of personal development of The Emotional Coaching. It is a source of strength and renewal. It is not only a faculty of knowledge, but it also creates autonomous transformations, appearing, consolidating, evolving, and succeeding themselves. It creates difference and gives it measure. It is a dynamic element of our being.
The first object of the intelligence of anyone knows oneself, in other terms, his emotional intelligence. This intelligence consists of what? It allows us to differentiate, among many emotions, the ones that free and develop energy. Since any act is a response to the emergence of a complex set of motivations, desires and emotions, Emotional Intelligence will work at identifying and at transforming them. If the affective universe is intelligent, it is in fact because it can transform, develop, structure itself and evolve. Emotional Intelligence allows us to distinguish, within a new situation, the potential value of everything that justifies the act.
We love doing something as soon as we know how to observe, distinguish, provoke the evolution of emotions, which we feel in the moment of the realization of this act. We are ourselves the object of our intelligence and it is through our feelings that we will discover, transform, differentiate and evolve.